What do women want? I'm at wits end ?

I just tried the cougar dating scene and she felt she was holding me back from having a life I don't want kids I like them but not for me..but she also says she wants to try with her ex again who is a druggie and alcoholic..but whatever..i don't know what women want in a guy..i don't drink, I don't do drugs, I don't lie, I won't cheat, or anything like that..so please women what do you really want?!