Help, never dated a guy this long before...?

And you can't make the effort to go see im because? He wants you to meet his friends and he is in touch with you when he an and he comes to see you when he can. He is trying to hold down a job and fit everyone in including you, his mates and his family. If you don't like the way things are you could ask him about it or just find someone who has all day to spend with you.